Helping Kids Cope: Talking Through the Camp Mystic Tragedy

I, like so many parents across the nation, was deeply shaken by the flash flood at Camp Mystic.

My own daughter, almost the same age as many of those campers, learned about what had happened from friends, and I found myself scrambling for the right words while managing my own worry.

It made me realize how helpful it can be for families to have some guidance on talking through tragedies like this, so kids feel seen and reassured.

How to Talk to Your Child About What Happened

Start with Simple Facts

For younger kids (4–7): "A sudden storm made the river rise very fast, and some of the camp buildings filled with water. People were hurt, and rescuers are working hard to help."
For older kids (8–12+): "On July 4, heavy rains caused the Guadalupe River to flood Camp Mystic's cabins in minutes. Emergency teams saved many people, but tragically some campers and staff died or are still missing. Rescuers are still searching."

Keep it brief; extra details can overwhelm young kids.

Acknowledge Their Feelings

Children may feel scared, sad, or even guilty ("Could I have done something?"). Help them name and normalize those emotions:

Name it: "It's okay to feel upset or worried."
Validate it: "I'm sad too; I care about those children."
Connect it: "Hearing about this reminds us how important it is to take care of each other."

Reassure Safety & Control

Kids need to know they're safe. Emphasize how their situation differs:

Distance: "Camp Mystic is far from here."
Preparedness: "Our community has weather alerts and a family emergency plan."
Your role: "I'm here to make sure we're safe, and we know what to do if there's a flood warning."

If you're closer to potential flooding, review your own home's safety kit and meeting spots.

Limit Media Exposure

Constant news updates or dramatic footage can spike anxiety.

Set boundaries: "Let's turn off the TV and do something fun instead."
Supervise sources: Let young kids rely on you for news, rather than unsupervised media.

I'll admit, I found myself endlessly refreshing news sites for updates, and each new alert only ramped up my anxiety.

I realized all that checking was mostly feeding my worry. That's when I set strict limits on when and how often I'd check the news, and replaced those compulsive scrolls with small acts of self-care.

A quick walk, a cup of tea in silence, or a few deep breaths became my "go-to" instead of my phone. I did it so I could stay calm and present for my daughters.

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Encourage Expression & Helping

Channeling feelings into action reduces helplessness:

Art or writing: "Draw how you feel."
Play: Act out a rescue mission with toys.
Service: "Would you like to write a card or donate a toy to a relief drive?"

Answer Questions Honestly, Briefly

If they ask "Why did this happen?" you can say:

"Sometimes heavy rain makes rivers rise very fast."

Let them guide how much more they want to hear.

Model Calm Coping

Children learn from your example:

Self-calming: "Let's take three deep breaths together."
Balanced talk: Share facts and emphasize helpers: "Rescuers are working hard."

Watch for Ongoing Distress

Reach out for help if they:

Have persistent nightmares or fear of going to bed
Refuse school or social activities
Repeatedly reenact the event in play

A child therapist can offer extra support; if you need a referral, don't hesitate to reach out.

Managing Your Own Worry as an Adult

Before you can help your child, you need to care for yourself. Try one or two of these each day:

Worry Window

Set aside 10–15 minutes to think through concerns, then gently shift focus.

Limit News & Social Media

Check trusted sources only once or twice a day.

Grounding (5-4-3-2-1)

Name 5 things you see, 4 you touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste.

Deep Breathing

Inhale for 4, hold 2, exhale for 6; repeat 5–10 times.

Connect

Share your feelings with a friend; naming worries often lessens them.

Move

A 5-minute walk or stretch can release physical tension.

Self-Compassion Break

Put a hand on your heart and say:

"This is hard right now. I'm not alone in feeling this way. I should be kind to myself."

Modeling healthy coping shows your kids how to handle big emotions.

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Bottom Line

Talking with your children about the Camp Mystic tragedy means balancing honesty with reassurance, validating their feelings, and reinforcing safety.

By setting media boundaries, encouraging expression, and caring for your own well-being, you help your family process difficult news and show them how to take care of each other when something terrible happens.

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