Nothing from the books sticks
Timeouts, sticker charts, the calm voice. You’ve done them all correctly and your child’s behavior is getting worse, not better.
Parent support & coaching · Austin & online in 40+ states
You said you’d never be the parent who yells. And here you are, losing it over shoes again.
The tantrums, the defiance, the meltdowns over nothing. You’ve tried everything the books and Instagram say, and your kid didn’t read any of them. You’re not the problem. You need tools that fit your actual child, and someone in your corner while you learn them. I’m a psychologist trained in child development, and a mom who has lost it over shoes.
A 15-minute call with me, Dr. Jana Rundle.

This is for you if
What’s happening is a mismatch between what your child needs and the strategies you have. Kids act out for reasons: unmet needs, developmental stage, temperament, sensory overload, anxiety. Once you understand the why, the behavior starts to make sense, and so does what to do.
Timeouts, sticker charts, the calm voice. You’ve done them all correctly and your child’s behavior is getting worse, not better.
One of you is strict, one of you caves, and the fight about it is louder than the fight with the kid.
You plan the whole day around avoiding the meltdown. It works until it doesn’t.
ADHD, anxiety, autism, sensory processing. The usual strategies fall flat, and nobody has told you what to do instead.
If this is your house, a 15-minute conversation is an easy next step. Bring the shoes story.
Book a free consultationSomeone in your corner
This is not a lecture about what you’re doing wrong. It’s a psychologist helping you see your specific child clearly and respond in ways that work. Depending on your family, we might work on:
Temperament, triggers, and what’s driving the behavior, so you’re responding to the cause and not just the noise.
Moving past the timeouts and reward charts that backfire toward strategies that fit this child, at this age.
Regulating yourself first, so you can be the anchor during the meltdown instead of the second storm.
Tantrums, power struggles, sibling fights, homework, screens, bedtime. Real plans for the moments that actually happen in your house.
Shared values first, then an approach you can both carry out. Inconsistency is harder on your child than either of your styles.
Mornings, homework, friendships, and advocating for your child with teachers when something underneath needs attention.

Working with me
I have specialized training in child development, parent-child attachment, behavioral approaches, emotional regulation, and neurodevelopmental differences including ADHD and autism. More to the point, I’m a mom, and I know the gap between what you planned to be and 7:45 a.m. on a Tuesday.
Sessions can be parent-only, include your child, or bring the whole family, in person at my Austin office or by video.
You tell me what’s happening at home; I tell you honestly whether this is the right kind of help.
We look at the hard moments, the pattern underneath, and what to try first. Usually weekly to start, then less often as things settle.
You try it, it half works, we fix the half. That’s the process, and it’s how real change happens.
Related
Sometimes the parenting struggle is the visible part of a mom who is depleted or anxious herself. If that’s closer to the truth, start there. Calmer parents make for calmer homes, and you’re allowed to be the client.
A few practical details
In person at my Austin office.
Online in 40+ states.
It helps, and it isn’t required. Plenty of the work happens with one parent, and I’ll give you ways to bring your partner along even if they never sit in a session. When both of you come, things move faster, mostly because you stop undoing each other’s work at home.
Sometimes. With toddlers and preschoolers I often watch the two of you together and coach in the moment. With older kids and teens, I might bring them in for a specific skill or a family problem-solving session. Most of the work is with you, because you’re the one who’s there at bedtime.
Yes. I have training in child development, attachment, behavioral approaches, emotional regulation, and neurodevelopmental differences including ADHD and autism. The strategies change with the child: what works for an anxious kid backfires with a defiant one, and a reward chart means nothing to a child who can’t hold the goal in mind. We fit the approach to your actual kid.
Often parent work is the most powerful first step, because you’re with them far more than any therapist will be. If your child is significantly struggling in their own right, with severe anxiety, depression, self-harm, or trauma, they likely need their own therapy too, and I’ll help you find it and coordinate.
Many families see real change in 8 to 12 sessions. Some come back for a few booster sessions at a new stage: starting school, a new sibling, puberty, a move. You don’t have to sign on forever.
That’s one of the most common reasons families come, and one of the most fixable. We find the values you share, understand each other’s triggers, and land on an approach you can both carry out consistently. Disagreeing doesn’t mean one of you is wrong; it means you need alignment.
No. Every parent yells sometimes. Every parent gets it wrong. This is a place to say the hard thing out loud without shame, and then do something useful with it. I’ll point out what you’re already doing well, because you won’t see it yourself, and build from there.
Books can’t see your kid, your triggers, or what you’ve already tried. We look at your actual hard moments, figure out why the standard advice isn’t landing, and adjust in real time. It also matters that someone is in your corner. The books don’t do that part.
Toddler tantrums, preschool defiance, and teenage pushback are normal. Behavior is worth a closer look when it’s much more intense, frequent, or prolonged than peers, gets in the way of school or friendships or family life, causes real distress, or involves harm. I’ll help you tell the difference and say plainly if an evaluation would help.
Yes: homework battles, school refusal, mornings that end in tears, trouble with friends. I don’t work with the school directly, but I’ll help you understand what’s underneath it and give you the language to advocate for your child.
Your next step
A free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Jana Rundle.